This week I have been concentrating on what happens to us when we make a mistake.
Remember the last mistake you claimed. What do you do when you make a mistake? Do you claim it or do you usually see someone else at fault? Do you immediately justify it and defend your actions? Do you avoid acknowledging it and quickly distract yourself and others from the result? Do you try to mask it and make sure that no one finds out? Do you blame yourself and be punitive in your head toward yourself? Do you make it about others and how they made you make those decisions?
Mistakes are the decisions and actions that we do which at the time of acting upon a declared decision with the information that was at hand or presented to us was the right decision and action. However, when the result is not as we desired, then we call it a mistake. Some mistakes only effect you. You are the one who has to pay the price. Some mistakes also effect others, that means that they also have to pay an emotional, cognitive, monetary, or time as the price with or for you.
Many people are not aware of the price they create for others around them when they make a mistake and when confronted with it by others, get very defensive and upset about why others are rubbing it in their face. Not realizing that other people actually get more upset when they have to pay for someone else’s mistake.
So, When you make a mistake, CLAIM it. Acknowledging that you are responsible for the result that you created. Yes, you made your choice of action based on the presented information at the time and did not have, nor seek for more or broader information. Therefore, you have the result that you have.
Let’s learn from it and move on. Not so fast!
See who else your mistake effected. You also need to clean it up with them. Acknowledging that you are aware that they have to also pay a price for your action will truly be appreciated. Ask for forgiveness from yourself and others. See if you can do anything to repay or ease the pain you have caused for others. See how you can clean up what has gotten created for yourself.
Now, Let’s learn and move on. You mostly learn from what you call mistakes. If you created all the results you wanted the first time you attempted at it, then you are not extending yourself to new realms in life, since life does not come with an instruction manual.
Let’s play and learn – Let’s fall, get up, wipe yourself and jump again – Let’s Live Life to the fullest.
Love
Foojan
About Dr. Foojan Zeine
Dr. Foojan Zeine is an International Speaker, Author, Psychotherapist, Clinical Supervisor, and successful Life and Executive Coach. She has her Doctorate in Clinical Psychology and is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. She sees her clients online and at her San Clemente, California office. Her expertise is in Intimate Relations and Addictive Behaviors. She has extensive experience treating Depression, Anxiety, Traumas, and Domestic Violence. She is a lecturer at the California State University – Long Beach.
Foojan is the originator and the author of “Awareness Integration” Psychological and Educational Theory, a multi-modality approach and intervention toward minimizing Depression, Anxiety while improving Self Esteem and Self Confidence. She is the author of 6 books, including “Life Reset – The Awareness Integration Path to Create the Life You Want” (Rowman & Littlefield 2017); “Awareness Integration Therapy – Clear the past, Create a new Future, and Live a Fulfilled Life Now.” (Cambridge Scholars 2021); “Intentional Parenting – A Practical Guide to Awareness Integration Theory” (Cambridge Scholars 2022).
She conducts training workshops to educate psychotherapists and teachers on this approach. This method has been researched and published; in “Awareness Integration: A New Therapeutic Model” in International Journal of Emergency Mental Health and Human Resilience, Vol. 16, No. 60-65, pp. ISSN 1522-4821; “Awareness Integration: An Alternative Therapeutic Methodology to Reducing Depression, Anxiety, While Improving Low Self Esteem and Self-Efficacy in Separated or Divorced Individuals” Mental Health in Family Medicine Journal (2017)13:451-458; “Awareness Integration: A Non-Invasive Recovery Methodology in Reducing College Students Anxiety, Depression, and Stress” Journal of Educational Technology, www.tojet.net/special/2017_11_1.pdf 11/2017 special issue 105-114.
Foojan has been in Hospital Administration. She has headed the Partial Hospital Program Team for the Hollywood community of Van Nuys and Pacifica Hospital. She was responsible for organizing, facilitating, and supervising the Clinical and Mental Health staff and created strong and impact complete programs for the Partial Program patients. She has also developed two Transitional Housing Programs for Battered women Alternatives in Northern California and Haven Hills in Southern California. These programs offered case management and individual and family counseling for women and their children who have been victims of domestic violence and had to deal with domestic violence, post-traumatic stress disorder, depression, child abuse, parenting, self-esteem, career development, chemical dependency, and eating disorders.
Foojan is the host of the Inner Voice – a Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan Podcast. She also hosts a television show on Togetherness Media and Tapesh TV. She is a guest speaker at many universities, including Harvard, MIT, UCLA, USC, and UC Santa Barbara. She has been a guest on the Dr. Phil show on CBS and Fox. Foojan is a contributor to YourTango.com, DivorceForce.com, yogajournal.com, Wholelife.com, Reader’s Digest, Men’s Health, and Huffington Post.
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