Healing & daily Practices – Dr.Foojan Zeine interviews Dr. Andrea Pennington & Dr. Eric Maisel

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Inner Voice – Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan on KMET 1490 AM / ABC News Radio (Healing & Daily Practices).  In this episode, Dr. Foojan shares the tip of the week about ways you can resolve conflicts through your communication.

Then she shares with you the latest research at MIT regarding Neuroscientists finding that the longings for social interaction felt during isolation are neurologically very similar to the food cravings people experience when hungry. 

Dr. Foojan interviews Dr. Andrea Pennington, an integrative physician, acupuncturist, a multi-passionate EmpowerMentor. An author of many books on empowering health and healing, in this episode they will be talking about her latest book “Holistic Healing” which a compilation of 12 different approaches to healing. www.HolisticHealingBook.com, www.andreapennington.com

 

Then she interviews Dr. Eric Maisel, America’s foremost creativity coach and the author of, The Power of Daily Practice: How Creative and Performing Artists (and Everyone Else) Can Finally Meet Their Goals, which is a thorough and holistic approach to meet the goals and challenges of creating an authentic and effective daily practice. www.ericmaisel.com

 

 

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Resolve your side of the conflict

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This week I have been focusing on how people can resolve conflict and come to an understanding.  
The first point that I have been observing is people’s intentions and how they envision resolution to look like and to feel like.  Most people do not have a similar view of what it should turn out to be.  Each person might prefer to see the end result of the conflict resolution to benefit them in a particular way and not the other.  Most people love to win or feel like a winner.  So it is important for us to come to some alignment of what we want to move toward, and to see the “win” at the end be a “win for both and all”.
The interesting matter is that in a conflict, we tend to insist to talk, to share our point of view, want to be understood, be validated, and be given what we want.  We may forget that the person in front of us has similar wants and needs.  It is wise to begin listening to the other person and take their needs into account.
I have noticed that people say they don’t want conflict but are not aware that their way of communicating may create fear, anger, disappointment, or disgust which will not entice the other person to want to cooperate.  Sarcasm, jabbing, character assassination, insult, humiliating the other person will create more conflict, and will not resolve it.  Respect, acceptance, empathy, understanding, and the spirit of cooperation move us toward the resolution of our conflict. 
Let’s try these steps:

• Observe your thoughts, feelings, and actions
• Notice your intention and agenda for the conversation
• Envision the future as if it is resolved and observe how you behave to create that result
• Invite the other person to talk
• Listen with an open mind and heart, attempt to understand their world 
• Repeat what they said and your perception of what they said
• Inquire about what is their non-negotiable and what is their ultimate wish
• Request from them to listen to you with their open mind and heart
• State your want, desire, or need clearly. Share your non-negotiable and your ultimate wish
• Notice all the similarities
• Negotiate on the slight differences
• Give a gift of your heart and willingness to create a win-win result
• Reconnect with love

Please check my book “Life Reset – The Awareness Integration Path to Creating the Life you Want” to get the step-by-step guide on how to create great relationships. 

Remember that you are one side of the conflict and that is the only side you have control over.

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Conflict Resolution through Love & Collaboration – Dr. Foojan Zeine interviews Chad Ford

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Inner Voice – Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan on KMET 1490 AM / ABC News Radio (Conflict Resolution through Love & Collaboration).  Dr. Foojan Zeine shares ways to recognize when we are surfing in denial and the cost of staying in denial.

 

Dr. Foojan shares the latest research from Princeton University regarding adversarial alignment and adversarial collaboration when differences arise.

 

And she interviews Chad Ford, a professor of Intercultural Peacebuilding at BYU-Hawaii. The host of The Dangerous Love Podcast, and the author of Dangerous Love: Transforming Fear and Conflict at Home, at Work, and in the World. They talk about letting go of fear and bringing curiosity, acceptance, and love into the conversation to resolve conflicts.

 

 

 

 

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Get Real

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This week I have been observing how much staying in denial can be harmful to the person who insists to stay in denial and everyone around them. 

I have had the opportunity to see this in people who have an addiction to a substance or a behavior.  There is a minimization of their attachment to the substance or the action. There is a minimization of the effect of their addiction on people around them. Usually, they bargain about ways they can control their behavior and stay in denial that they can’t, then justify their behavior with some manipulative tactics. 

I had the opportunity to observe the denial of a woman who despite being very unhappy in her marriage, holds on to the fantasy of the beginning time of their relationship and hoping that their honeymoon stage will come back while she cries every day for how her husband is treating her.  

And watching the news media to see a major denial of the election process. 
What is the reason for staying in denial while the reality is staring us in the face?  When reality is too hard to handle we keep staying in denial. When we have to let go of something that was important to us and the present nor the future appear to be better than what we had, we choose the delusion of denial.  When we bargain in our own mind and with others just to keep what we hoped instead of what is, we end up in denial.  

Unfortunately, no matter how long we stay in denial, no matter how much we hope that reality was something else, no matter how much we bargain for something that does not exist, the reality stays as-is.  We only delay the process but don’t change the reality.  It is a much quicker path to accept the reality as is, go through the grief that is awaiting us, and create a goal and an action plan that moves us toward a reality that we envision. The coping mechanism of denial is set up for us not to face the pain, however, subconsciously we are suffering since we have to deal with the reality on a daily basis.  So the resistance creates more harm and wasted energy. 

Facing reality might be painful, however, the faster we face what is real in our lives, the faster we go through the grief, the pain, and become more resilient.  However, staying in denial only prolongs the pain. We just learn how to justify the pain in the hope of the fantasy that we hoped to be there.  For an addict, the destruction just continues in the hope of 1 minute of feeling bliss, which does not occur after a while at all, while the only thing that remains are the consequences.  For the unhealthy marriage, the unhappiness continues with pain for the couple and their children with no sign of the honeymoon stage ever coming back.  For the election process, losing respect for the institution, the society, and the sense of community with the feeling of sorrow, sadness, and fear. 

It is much wiser to face the reality. If you don’t know how then get help and create the courage and the skills to face all that the reality is requiring you to deal with.  You can learn the distinctions and skills that would support you to deal with reality with ease and grace in my book “Life Reset – The Awareness Integration Path to Creating the Life You Want”. 

Love

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Connect to Your Intuition & Dreams – Dr. Foojan chats with Kim Chestney & Robert Moss

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Inner Voice – Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan on KMET 1490 AM / ABC News Radio (Connect to Your Intuition & Dreams). Dr. Foojan Zeine shares ways to handle your anticipation and anxiety in life.

Dr. Foojan shares the latest research indicating, people who feel enthusiastic and cheerful, what psychologists call positive affect are less likely to experience memory decline as they age. In this show, I bring you the latest research about people who feel enthusiastic and cheerful, what psychologists call positive affect are less likely to experience memory decline as they age.

I also bring you Kim Chestney, a globally recognized innovation leader, the founder of Intuition Lab, and the author of Radical Intuition. We will be talking about ways to develop your listening to your intuition. www.kimchestney.com

Then I bring you Robert Moss, the author of GROWING BIG DREAMS: Manifesting Your Heart’s Desires through Twelve Secrets of the Imagination. We will be talking about ways to connect with your inner imagineer and become scriptwriter, director, and star of your own life movies, choosing your preferred genre, and stepping into a bigger and braver story. www.mossdreams.com

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Handling Anticipation

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his week has been a week of anticipation for most of us. So, I began exploring how we handle the feeling of anticipation. 

Anticipation is a feeling of excitement, longing, yearning, or waiting eagerly for something you know that is going to happen.  If we project that the expected event is positive, then the excitement will ride with pleasure.  If our projection is for a dangerous or a negative event, then a feeling of anxiety and fear is experienced.  
Anxiety is actually anticipation for some negative event to happen, we project the worst-case scenario to the future, resist it happening, and then scare ourselves with all the negative consequences that might happen. 

I have worked with people who have anticipation for their exams, board exams, speaking in front of others, wedding, a great party, a present for their birthday or Christmas, or any positive event that is coming up which they are eager to make it perfect and shine.

I also have worked with others who have anticipated their abuser to open the door to come in and harm them sexually or physically, for a loved one in their last stage of life to pass on, Judge’s verdict on their crime or any event that they know will create pain for them, parents to find out about what they have done and punish them, or getting fired or laid off. 

I remember working with a client who was quitting smoking and through hypnosis, she released all the anticipation she had felt every afternoon hearing the guy who molested her walking up the stairs to her room.  She realized that she picked up a cigarette every time she felt anticipation to soothe herself. As she healed that trauma, she was also able to let go of smoking easier. 

How can we handle anticipation?

1. Identify the feeling of anticipation and assess if it is toward a positive event or a negative one.

2. If positive, then begin visualizing yourself in the midst of experiencing the positivity and begin your enjoyment, or you may distract yourself with another event or action until the time arrives for the positive event that you were waiting for.

3. if negative, then begin visualizing what might go wrong and then how you will handle it or survive it based on your skills and strength.  

4. Do a reality check to minimize your fear and tone down your imagination to what actually could happen, versus all negative possibilities that are imaginable, however, unlikely to occur. 

5. If anticipating an abuse, plan for your safety, get support, or leaving the premise so that you can find solutions and become empowered to move to a safer environment. 6. If you have been traumatized by events which now the anticipation of similar events are ingrained in your psyche, please get help to heal your trauma.

You can go to my book “Life Reset – The Awareness Integration Path to Living the Life You Want“ to receive guidance through easy steps in how to handle anticipation in all areas of your life.

May you enjoy the excitement of the greatness of life and be powerful in the face of all that life brings.
Love 

Foojan

Relief from Burnout and Overwhelm – Dr. Foojan chats with Christine Arylo

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Inner Voice – Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan on KMET 1490 AM / ABC News Radio (Relief from Burnout and Overwhelm). Dr. Foojan Zeine shares ways to connect and listen to other’s different or opposite opinions in a healthy way.

Dr. Foojan shares the latest research indicating, what’s important for overall happiness is how a person uses social media and how that use can impact a person’s overall well-being.

I also bring you Christine Arylo. She is a transformational leadership advisor, host of the popular Feminine Power Time podcast, and a three-time bestselling author – Today we will be talking about her latest book “Overwhelmed and Over it”. www.ChristineArylo.com

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Quiet down, listen to your body, your mind, and others – Dr.Foojan interviews Roni Maislish & Lyn Lesch

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Inner Voice – Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan on KMET 1490 AM / ABC News Radio (Quiet down, listen to your body, your mind, and others), Dr. Foojan Zeine shares how we can open our ears, and heart to talk and listen to everyone around us even if they hold different views.

 

Dr. Foojan shares the latest research regarding increasing sleep time after trauma could minimize psychological aftereffect. 

She brings you Roni Maislish is a psychotherapist working in the field of “Emotional Eating and the emotional aspect of Obesity.  www.ronimaislish.com

Then Dr. Foojan will talk with Lyn Lesch, an educator.  He founded and directed his own democratically run school for children ages six to fourteen for twelve years, one that received widespread attention in Chicago, and the author of

Intelligence in the Digital Age: How the Search for Something Larger May Be Imperiled.  www.lynlesch.com

 

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Being Mindful in Parenting and everyday Life – Dr. Foojan with Hunter Clarke-fields & Hersch Wilson

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In this segment of Inner Voice – Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan on KMET 1490 AM / ABC News Radio (Being Mindful in Parenting and everyday Life), Dr. Foojan Zeine shares 10 tips about how to calm down your emotions and deal with a hardship systematically. Dr. Foojan shares the latest research about using electronic media while doing schoolwork negatively impacts learning, many students believe they’re immune to any ill effects because they’re good multitaskers.

Dr. Foojan brings you Hunter Clarke-Fields, a mindfulness mentor, host of the Mindful Mama podcast, creator of the Mindful Parenting online course, and author of the new book, Raising Good Humans. She helps parents bring more calm into their daily lives and cooperation in their families. Hunter has over 20 years of experience in meditation and yoga practices and has taught mindfulness to thousands worldwide. MindfulMamaMentor.com. They talk about how to practice being mindful and carry it as a role model with your children.

Dr. Foojan also talks to Hersch Wilson a volunteer firefighter since 1986. He has worked as an organizational consultant, pilot, outdoor adventure trainer, professional dancer, and the author of Firefighter Zen: A Field Guide to Thriving in Tough Times. They talk about how to invite challenges into our life to build skills and get toughened up for life. www.HerschWilson.com

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Through Hardship, you will find your Resiliency

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I have been witnessing a ray of different reactions to similar events.  I have worked with people who have gotten their abnormal radiology tests and have panicked and seen the worst possible scenarios and others who have gotten the same abnormal results and have not blinked.  I have talked to people who have been infected by Covid -19 and had mild symptoms and yet panicked and have worked with clients who were in the hospital for the covid, and yet were calm through the process. Seen people who have lost their jobs and can’t sleep at night, and have seen people who have lost their whole business and are working it through systematically. 

What is the internal dialogue which creates high levels of anxiety for some people and takes them to the point of panic and paralyzation, versus others who work through the process with a sense of calmness?  

There is a negative and catastrophic way of thinking when faced with events in life that feed anxiety and fear.  Usually, people visualize the worst-case scenario and stay right at the edge of the fear.  This way they attempt to continuously scare themselves as if they are watching a horror film that never ends.  This puts a toll on the person’s physiology and runs them down emotionally and physically.  

Others will face illness, or a divorce, death in the family, an accident, loss of a job, etc. with a solution-focused mentality.  This does not mean that they don’t go through fear, anxiety, anger, sadness, or all sort of emotions, they certainly will have their range of emotions, but allow themselves to obtain information, assess all the information, check their fear with the reality of what is really happening, check their fear about the future with the reality of what is possible in the future, talk to people who have gone through a similar experience and then create a game plan about how to overcome all that has happened to them.  

How can we overcome our intense emotions first and then look at what can be done?

1. Acknowledge the unfortunate event that has happened 

2. Identify and name the feeling or multiple feelings that have triggered in you

3. Recognize the thought process that triggers those particular feelings 

4. Check your thinking about the event with the reality of what actually has happened

5. Check with others around you on how they see the event

6. Check with others who have survived an event similar to yours and learn how they have overcome it

7. Visualize how you would like this event to turn out, make sure it is based on reality and not fantasy

8. Create an action plan to get from where you are to where you visualize to get

9. Identify and name your emotions now while you visualize the end result

10. Write down and create a collage of where you like to end up if and when it is all solved.

You will find your strength, skills, and resilience to work through all that life will bring forth. 

May life bring you what you can handle & May you handle all that life brings you

Love

Foojan

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