I have been working with fear this week. It shows up instantly, it lingers, it catches you in your dreams and wakes you up from it. It is a strong emotion that at times debilitates people.
The emotion of fear is a signal for you to take care of yourself. It is telling you that either there is danger around you in the present moment or by some of your decision making danger will show up in the future. Trying to tell you that uncomfortableness is around the corner. Do something NOW.
Fear will show up in your body, your breathing will become shallow, your stomach, shoulders, jaws, or whole-body might get weak or experience pain. Some people become numb and lose functionality, some will ignore it and have anxiety or panic attacks, some will ignore it and have nightmares or get insomnia. For some who ignore their fear, they find themselves not being attentive at all to daily activities and lose their productivity momentum.
So, what do we do with this important emotion? Well, respect it, listen to it, see what the message is for you. And… Don’t let it stop you….
After understanding the message of the fear, let’s do a reality check with what really is at stake. Is the fear real? Is the fear due to something that is happening now, or just a fear from the past, or a future that has not happened? Is the fear from the days that you did not have the skills to handle what is in front of you and your system has not integrated all that you have learned? Is there a skill that you actually have to learn to handle what is in front of you? Can you see what the worst-case scenario is and see if you can tolerate and survive it?
Is it a matter which there is no action needed and you just need to accept what is and come to terms with life?
Let’s now focus on your strength and resiliency and bring them into the picture and action. With the strength, knowledge, wisdom, resources that you have today, how can you handle the matter that you are facing? Who can you get the support to handle what you need? What do you need to do to take care of yourself? What do you need to do to handle the situation?
Remember, Fear is a natural emotion and is there to protect you. So, do a reality check and take care of yourself and what is needed. Use your power and courage to overcome it and move on enjoying life.
Life is precious so enjoy it
I have been noticing when one is committed to a context of Love and affinity, no matter what happens, no matter how everyone else acts, the one who is holding the commitment toward love and peace will keep their peace internally and will impact the outcome of the interaction.
I have worked with couples whom one person has been committed to holding the love, listening from the heart, talking from an open and caring place to a mate who has been raging. The result was an amazing dialogue with more understanding and depth. I have witnessed political debates when all that mattered was one person listening with their heart to another person being righteous and the outcome was still an unbelievable connection.
It appears that when you commit yourself to an unwavering space of love and affinity, the world could be filled with its own agenda and you will still prevail inside with a peace of mind and a heart filled with love.
Love like there is no tomorrow.