Mend Your Heart

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This week I am observing all the relationships that need to be mended after arguments.
We can see this with the past political climate when family members, friends, neighbors, and even social media followers had a couple of months of volatile conversations.

I also have worked with people this past week that had ended relationships with family members or friends over a heated argument in an impulsive manner and then felt remorse. 

This happens a lot in marriages when people disconnect after arguments and have no idea to repair and reconnect. 

How do we mend, repair and reconnect a wounded relationship?

1. Observe whether you are only interested in reconnecting to prove to the other person that you are right.  Obviously, that won’t work and will only continue to escalate the conflict. 

2. Clear your intentions – What do you want to create at the end of the relationship? What type of quality do you want to have in your relationships?

3. Reflect back to past arguments and behaviors and assess what part you played in the conflict and the breakdown of the communication.

4. Identify which one of your behaviors might have hurt them.

5. Would you be willing to take responsibility for how you have hurt them or have created a disconnect in the relationship?

6. Would you be willing to apologize for your part in the disconnection?

7. Would you consider having a quality relationship worth more than being righteous about your ideas?

8. Would you be interested in seeing the other person’s world and have compassion and understanding for their views?

9. Reach out with the context of reconnection and forgive them for their behavior that has hurt you.

10. Listen, Listen, Listen, first – Share yourself – with love.

We can disagree and have different opinions, and yet connect with each other with love and understanding.  People who report they are in healthy marriages or friendships live this concept every day. We can connect with our similarities and likes, and accept our differences.

To learn more skills of observation and intention creation go to my book “Life Reset – The Awareness Integration Path to Create the Path You Want”. 

Mend your own heart from disconnecting from people just because they are not like you. Open your heart to all. You will enjoy the feeling of love that arises.
Love

Foojan

Loving Fear – Dr. Foojan Zeine interviews Lawrence Doochin about Fear

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Inner Voice – Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan on KMET 1490 AM / ABC News Radio.  In this segment-Loving Fear- Dr. Foojan shares the Tip of the Week about how to be for each other even if we are not similar and cooperate with each other. She will talk about how to handle the feeling of FEAR in the Ask me segment. She will share the latest research about scientists looking into the brains of individuals engaged in conversation. What they observed varied significantly depending on whether or not the participants were in agreement. Dr. Foojan will bring you Lawrence Doochin an entrepreneur, and the author of  A Book on Fear: Feeling Safe in a Challenging World, talking about ways to recognize, deal with, heal, and intend to be kind. www.lawrencedoochin.com

 

 

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Let’s not fight, Let’s support each other

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This week I have been experiencing gratitude for many aspects of life.  I have been speaking to friends, family, colleagues, and clients about their pain, suffering, resiliency, and gratitude for who they are and what they have in life. 

Interestingly enough, this week a neighbor approached me with no apparent reason and began to insult me directly because of my political affiliation, my ethnicity, and my country of origin.  Another neighbor took a stance for my rights. I was practically smiling with the highest respect for people who support each other and with compassion for those who are so angry in their expression and lack of interest in getting to know others.  

Many people shared their own experiences this week with their fears, anger, mistrust, hope, compassion, and resilience.  It appears that emotions are so heightened that people are having difficulty restraining themselves long enough to regulate their emotions and follow through a path of logic, and then intend for understanding and compromisation before attempting to communicate.  The allowance to blast is becoming a right and a norm for many.  

Pressures are high for most people around the world.  Many people are experiencing a loss.  Many live in the unknown and the instability of what the future will bring.  Many are angry and waiting to create change. Some are so angry, feel hatred, and are out to destroy.

What has made us survive through wars, revolutions, climate disasters, economic disasters, plagues, and pandemics has been our cooperativeness and compassion for each other and at times even for the ones who do not think like us or have the same race or color.  

Observe yourself – What are you angry about?What are your losses?What is it that you need to say and haven’t yet?What are your needs?What are you grateful for?Who are you grateful for?How can you expand your compassion and care toward others?What are your biases?Where are you stuck?

To support you in looking inside and learning the skills to become aware and integrate your inner parts and dialogue, I refer you to my book “Life Reset – The Awareness Integration Path to Create the Life you Want” 

Be there for someone who needs your support.  You will need theirs sometime in your life. 

Love

Foojan

Managing Needs & Emotion

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Inner Voice – Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan on KMET 1490 AM / ABC News Radio.  In this segment-Managing our Needs & Emotion – Dr. Foojan shares the Tip of the Week about how being emotionally and cognitively healthy is important in our lives. She will talk about how to maintain our anxiety in the Ask me segment. She will share the latest research about Neuroscientists show that the entire auditory pathway represents sounds according to prior expectations.  Dr. Foojan will bring you Dr. Robert Johansen, a psychotherapist for more than 40 years and the co-founder and co-author of the Needs Management Theory – A theory about love, intimacy and relationships.

 

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Emotional Health is a must for Relationships

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Well, This was an interesting week in the US.  I hope that you are all safe and healthy.  I hope that you had a good week and getting ready for a great weekend.

Well, This was an interesting week in the US.  I hope that you are all safe and healthy.  I hope that you had a good week and getting ready for a great weekend.

I have observed denial, perceiving the truth differently, manipulating, attacking, justifying, and so forth all over relationships this week.  

We all saw it all over media this past week with leaders of this country.

I have seen it with couples who have different agendas and each might be in denial of some part of the reality or perceive reality in their preferred way, feel entitled to their reality, manipulate to get what they want, threaten to give a consequence if they don’t get their way,  then attack to get their way and ultimately justify their actions and their position.  

I have seen the same dynamics between family members, a mother with a daughter, 2 brothers, father and son, 2 sisters, etc. I have also been a witness to similar dynamics between business partners.  

This dynamic usually happens when we lose trust regarding the other person’s intention, the spirit of team building, friendship, the benefit of all attitude, and the sense of loss over the outcome of the negotiation toward our side.  

This dynamic usually ends relationships, partnerships,  and marriages.  Since the path is only to win regardless of the consequences.  I’ve seen this dynamic many times in divorces and dissolving business partnerships which leave nasty residual feelings for everyone in the process. 

Does it need to get there? Nope.  Especially if there is an intention to keep the relationship, such as marriages or family relationships. 

What does it take for us not to allow destruction and only allow constructive negotiation to occur?  For us to keep the bigger picture in sight that would benefit all in the long hall and not just self-interest short-term gain. It does take mature and emotionally and cognitively healthy people to be able to negotiate fairly and amicably.  

What does it take to be emotionally and cognitively healthy? To be able to be in control of your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Able to handle life challenges, doing a reality check, and bouncing back from failures or setbacks.  Having high self-esteem and have values that are aligned with compassion toward others with no intention to harm others. The ability to clearly think, see reality as it is presented and agreed upon by others around, learn from mistakes, take responsibility and accountability for their own action. Feel remorse for their negative impact on others and have the skill to clear, clean, and reconnect to others. 

Observe yourself:

• In what areas of life and in which relationships do you see yourself being emotionally healthy? 
• In which scenarios or relationships you lose your emotional stability?
• In what circumstances do you find yourself in denial and refuse to see what others tell you?
• Under what conditions you lose cooperativeness and will do anything to win even though it is to your determine?
• How do you restore yourself and the damaged relationships?

To be emotionally and cognitively healthy it is important to be aware and then regulate our perception, emotion, and action toward an intended result that is beneficial to all who are part of the relationship, family, community, and the world. 

For gaining skills in how to become emotionally and cognitively healthy see my book “Life Reset – The Awareness Integration Path to Creating the Life You Want” .

Love

Foojan

Limitless Possibilities Ahead This Year – Dr. Foojan Zeine interviews Peter Ruppert

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Inner Voice – Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan on KMET 1490 AM / ABC News Radio.  In this segment- Limitless Possibilities Ahead This Year – Dr. Foojan shares the Tip of the Week about declaring the best of you.

She will share the latest research about Six Ways to ‘Reboot Your Brain’ After a Hard Year of COVID-19. Dr. Foojan will bring you Peter Ruppert is founder and CEO of i-Education Group, which operates over 75 Fusion and Futures Academies for grades 6-12 in one student-one teacher classroom environments. Today we will be talking about his new book – Limitless: Nine Steps to Launch Your One Extraordinary Life. www.peteruppert.com

 

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Happy New Year

I wish you an amazing year ahead filled with love and joy.  A year in which you experience life fully.

I wish you an amazing year ahead filled with love and joy.  A year in which you experience life fully.

Let me share with you how the year went. Each year I create a vision for myself to commit to and attain.  I have committed toward being authentic, transparent, connected, happy, joyous, passionate, loving, accepting, forgiving, expressive and most of all be on integrity.  I have kept up this way of being most of the hours and most of the days.  And the times that I wasn’t, I shifted back to my commitment as quickly as possible.  

This year has been interesting with Covid-19 creating more opportunity for me to see clients and even socialize online.  Although it is different when I don’t sit beside another person to feel their presence, I had to gain the expertise to be fully present with each and everyone via zoom or FaceTime.  I decided to close my Beverly Hills office and officially be in Orange County with only one office in San Clemente and see clients mostly online.  It is interesting, I miss being in people’s presence, and yet truly enjoy the comfort of my home while I see people online.  The lack of traffic from my bedroom to kitchen to my home office is delightful.  The ability to hop to the kitchen for a snack during the day and chat with my husband during my breaks is a blessing. I used to be known for never being home and did not know how this staying at home norm would turn out.  Surprisingly, I really enjoy being and working from home, and don’t have the old need or desire to always be out. My connection with my clients stayed the same and even at times appreciated each other more.  It appeared to me that connecting from home for both clients and I made the professional relationship warmer.  I acknowledge that for some it just did not work and they needed to come to the office.  Sitting at the office with masks on which did not allow us to see our full facial expression was an inconvenience, and yet a responsible act which so far has saved me and my clients from covid-19. There were many losses and had to grieve many normal ways of being and acting.  However, overall I went through the transition smoothly. 

The notion of both my husband and I working from home and being at the same location for 24 hours was very new.  He used to travel a lot and I used to work 12 hour days at the office. We made it and actually made us closer.  Previously we both needed lots of space not to feel suffocated, and yet found ways to give each other room to breath while we enjoyed knowing that the other is in close vicinity and then connect multiple times during the day.  My promise was to fall in love every day, and I have.  I think I really like this and might experience separation anxiety if we go back to the previous norm. LOL. We welcomed an addition to our family, a white Pomeranian named Mr. Spock which has brought the ultimate joy for us. 

I finished the Awareness Integration Therapy book as the manual for therapists this year ready to be published.  Then with 2 amazing colleagues started Intentional Parenting book which will be published May 2021. I have 7 weekly Radio/television shows in Farsi and 2 Radio/podcast shows in English. Plus live instagram programs and online lectures for various groups.  Began a zoom group “Kavosh” bringing experts from all walks of life to brainstorm together about matters pertaining to humanity, It has been a full year.  I feel blessed and thankful for everyone who has supported me.  I learned to be flexible with life as it brings surprises every day and to continue with what I believe in no matter what the circumstances are. 

I am ready for more in 2021.  Teaching the Awareness Integration Model in Cal State Long Beach, conducting multiple research with children at childcare, schools and family therapy, creation of an App for the model, facilitating online workshops for the public, and courses for therapists.  I am on a roll and excited.

Now, how about you?How was your last year?

What did you learn about yourself?

What was the toughest time you had to endure?

What were you flexible with?

What were your achievements in different areas of your life?

What were you loses?

How did you handle your loss?

What are you committed to create next year?

Who do you commit to be?

Write your declarations and live them.

Be the one that you have always dreamed of being. 

Wishing you to be and act the best of you effortlessly and inspire the best of all around you.

Love

Foojan

Honoring the Soul of Men – Dr. Foojan Zeine interviews Dr. Ed Adams

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Inner Voice – Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan on KMET 1490 AM / ABC News Radio.  In this segment- Honoring the Soul of Men – Dr. Foojan shares the Tip of the Week about living joyously. She will answer your questions in the Ask Me segment about loving someone and wanting to marry them, even though families are against it. Then it is time for the latest Research about children associate power and masculinity, as early as 4 years old, even in countries considered to be more egalitarian like Norway. Researchers also show that in some situations the power-masculinity association does not manifest in girls.

Then Dr. Foojan brings you Dr. Ed Adams, co-author of Reinventing Masculinity: The Liberating Power of Compassion and Connection is a licensed psychologist in private practice who specializes in treating men in individual and group therapy for more than thirty years. he is also the founder of Men Mentoring Men.  www.reinventingmasculinity.com

 

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Life is Yours. Live Joyously

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The joy of getting gifts for all our loved ones and the joy of seeing their happiness and excitement when they open their presents is great.  It is so sad that we can’t be together at holiday gatherings and have to exchange gifts by dropping them off and then have zoom festivities.  Yet, I am grateful that technology allows us to connect from across the world.  

It has been a quiet holiday and yet filled with love.  I also have been thinking of all the people that their loved ones are not with them and they have to live in their remembrance. I also have been thinking of the families that have been going through hardship and can not have the same celebration or gift-giving that they had in previous years.  My heart is with everyone who is feeling lonely or sad on holidays.  Please accept my love. 

May you celebrate every day of your life for the precious being that you are.  

May you give love with no restriction and allow yourself to receive the love that is out there for you.  The assured feeling that there is love in the world and all that I need to do is feel it, receive it, and own it.  You will never feel lonely again. Trust me, it is much easier to live in this loving world vs, the projection that there is a cold world out there that is out to get me and I need to always protect myself.  Yes, we all need an accurate assessment of when we need to protect ourselves when needed, however, overall there are more opportunities to give and receive love at every moment.  

These times of pandemic has brought so many people together again, cherishing each other and valuing each other.  So, let’s open our hearts and hands and give of ourselves.  List everyone in your life that you want to share your love with. Call them, text them, video them, and let them know. Then think of all the people whom you know love you dearly even if they have not shared it with you.  Call them, text them, video them, and let them know that you appreciate them.  Look at yourself in the mirror and cherish yourself.  

Life is yours. Live Joyously

You are the creator – Dr. Foojan Zeine interviews Dr. Arash Rezazadeh and Nir Bashan

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Inner Voice – Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan on KMET 1490 AM / ABC News Radio.  In this segment-You are the creator – Dr. Foojan shares the Tip of the Week about the beauty in cherishing the value that our relationships bring to us. She will share the latest Research about wanting to conjure a new thought in your mind, you have to force yourself to stop ruminating on old thoughts. Then Dr. Foojan brings you Dr. Arash Rezazadeh,   a board-certified UCI Health medical oncologist. His clinical interests include immunotherapy and targeted therapies for cancers of the prostate, bladder, and kidney.  He talks about the Covid-19 Vaccine.  Then she chats with Nir Bashan, the founder and CEO of The Creator Mindset talking about his latest book: The Creator Mindset: 92 Tools to Unlock the Secrets to Innovation, Growth, and Sustainability. www.nirbashan.com

 

 

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