Blissful Relationship

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I have been observing the essence of family and friendships, especially in these holiday times.  There is a beauty in cherishing the value that our relationships bring to us.  
Although it appears that we don’t choose our family, I assert that we do internally.  We don’t choose our parents, siblings, grandparents, uncles, aunts, or in-laws.  All those relationships actually happen. Yet, we may choose them as valuable members of our world by allowing our hearts to open and relate to them, get curious about their thoughts, emotions, and all that happens in their lives.  We can also share who we are, our thoughts, beliefs, and creativity openly with them.  There may also be members of our family that we relate to from an obligatory place, we attend to our role as a daughter, son, cousin, etc. but have some judgment toward them or feel judged by them and therefore close up when we are around them. 


On the other hand, we choose people to be in our life as friends.  We choose them based on some similarities. We may have met them through work, hobbies, or socializing among other friends.  Friends are chosen family members who can be included in our world or can be excluded if the relationship does not work for us anymore.  


We may have friends or family members with whom we may feel close at one time in our lives and not feel close at another when we don’t have anything in common due to a phase of life change.  For example, as we move from high school to college, from singlehood to marriage, and then to have children, etc.  


Our intimate relationship or our mate is also a chosen relationship, which we may choose to keep feeling intimacy with, or feel separated emotionally and just keep the structure of marriage due to a variety of reasons. 


The structure of any of these relationships is different from the relatedness itself and how we hold someone close to our heart for a period of time in our life.  Interestingly, the amount of people who are structurally around us becomes irrelevant to our happiness and fulfillment.  It is the quality of the closeness and fondness that makes us feel blessed with the relationships that we have. 

Sharing ourselves fully, sharing our love and affection, accepting others as who they are, having empathy, compassion, and being real creates blissful relationships. 
To become more aware and learn skills in how to create quality, intimate, heartwarming, and long-lasting relationships in your life, check out my book “Life Reset – The Awareness Integration Path to Creating the Life you Want”. 


The quality of our life is measured by the quality of our relationships.  So, create blissful relationships with yourself and others.

Love

Foojan

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Courage, Wisdom & Stoicism – Dr. Foojan Zeine interviews Dr. William Ferraiolo

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Inner Voice – Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan on KMET 1490 AM / ABC News RadioIn this segment- Courage, Wisdom & Stoicism – Dr. Foojan shares the Tip of the Week about ways that we can get excited and enroll others in our ideas or get enrolled into other people’s ideas. She will share the latest Research about Chronic sleep disruption during adolescence which can lead to depression. Then Dr. Foojan brings you Dr. William Ferraiolo, Instructor of Philosophy at San Joaquin Delta Community College, author of multiple books, including Meditation on Self-Discipline and failure, You Die at the end, A life worth Living and God Bless the Broken Bones. We will be talking about applications of Stoicism to contemporary challenges.

 

 

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Enrolling Yourself and Others

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This week I have been observing how when we get excited and passionate about something, a project, a task, a relationship, or a person we tend to enroll others around us.  I have also been a recipient of someone else’s excitement and passion which enrolled me into their ideas.  There is a transference of energy, excitement, vision, and connection that happens which becomes enrolling.  Many times when I talk about enrollment, it reminds people of selling a product.  That is not what I am talking about.  We are in the processing of enrollment all day with people around us. 

This week I have been observing how when we get excited and passionate about something, a project, a task, a relationship, or a person we tend to enroll others around us.  I have also been a recipient of someone else’s excitement and passion which enrolled me into their ideas.  There is a transference of energy, excitement, vision, and connection that happens which becomes enrolling.  Many times when I talk about enrollment, it reminds people of selling a product.  That is not what I am talking about.  We are in the processing of enrollment all day with people around us. 


Let’s define what enrollment is? The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines it as “to enroll oneself or cause oneself to be enrolled“.  I define enrollment as – The ability to share your ideas, thoughts, and vision in a way that another person gets it, understands it and becomes inspired by it.   Being enrolled is to the curiosity and the allowance to receive ideas and experiences that come to us and allow inspiration and joy of the gift of novelty and expansion. Observe yourself and answer the following questions:


Are you able to enroll others in your ideas, beliefs, or vision? 

Are you able to enroll your spouse in some of the ideas that you have?

How about your children, can you enroll them to follow your directions or guidance?

If you are the head of your company, how good are you in enrolling your staff in new ideas?

If you work in a company, how do you enroll the executive management to a new idea?

In the current divided political arena, how good are you in enrolling your friends and family in your perspective?

What are some of the belief systems that you keep re-enrolling yourself on inside your own head?

Every moment we are either getting enrolled by someone or enrolling them into our ideas or being.  If we are not allowing our self to be enrolled, then we are resisting novelty and change for the fear of the unknown.


My experience is that when someone truly believes in an idea, believes that their idea works, it is to the benefit of others, creates energy and vitality, and living those ideas puts them in the zone, it becomes contagious.  When you watch someone be elated by what they believe in, it elates you.  The emotional state transfers to people around.  Interestingly enough, a person might not fully agree with the idea, however, they get enrolled in the state of enthusiasm, passion, wholeness, and elation.  At times I have experienced getting enrolled in who the person is versus their ideas, for example, the way they carry themselves with confidence, or how love and peace radiate from them, or that their wholeness becomes inspiring. 

One of the factors of feeling alive, elated, inspired, and fulfilled is to be engaged with life.  Being engaged in life is to be enrolled in new ideas and allowing yourself to expand who you are to all the possibilities that are awaiting you.  Allowing yourself toward an expansion of ideas, perspectives, and experiences creates fulfillment. 

To observe which belief systems you keep re-enrolling yourself in from the past and see if they are still working for you, to see if you are open or closed to being enrolled in other ideas as they show up in your life, go to my book – “Life Reset – The Awareness Integration Path to creating a Life you Want”. 

Be enrolling of yourself & allow yourself to be enrolled toward greatness

Love

Foojan

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Breakthrough in Manifesting Love and Health – Dr. Foojan Zeine interview with Dr. Andrea Pennington and Eileen McDargh

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Inner Voice – Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan on KMET 1490 AM / ABC News Radio (Breakthrough in Manifesting Love and Health).  In this segment Dr. Foojan shares the tip of the week about how people go from anxiety-producing thoughts to calming thought processes.  

 

She brings you Andrea Pennington is an integrative medicine doctor, TEDx speaker and authored and co-authored several books. They talk about her latest book “Manifesting Love – Real-Life Love Stories of Conscious Relationships co-created with the Universe”. www.manifestinglovebook.com

 

Then she brings you Eileen McDargh the chief energy officer at the Resiliency Group, as well as a consultant to major national and international organizations, including global pharmaceuticals, the U.S. Armed Forces, healthcare associations, and religious institutions. They talk about her new book “Burnout to Breakthrough: Building Resilience to Refuel, Recharge, and Reclaim What Matters.” www.eileenMcDargh.com

 

 

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Present the Best of YOU Like a Pro – Dr. Foojan Zeine interviews with Michael Gelb

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Inner Voice – Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan on KMET 1490 AM / ABC News Radio (Present the Best of YOU Like a Pro).  In this episode, Dr. Foojan Zeine shares the tip of the week about holding a high level of gratitude.

Then she shares with you the latest research about anxiety over public speaking that can be reduced by a public-speaking tutor on the Amazon Alexa Platform.

 Dr. Foojan interviews Michael J. Gelb has pioneered the fields of creative thinking, accelerated learning, and innovative leadership. He leads seminars for organizations such as DuPont, Merck, Microsoft, and Nike. He is the author and co-author of 16 books, including the international bestseller How to Think Like Leonardo da Vinci.  Today they will be talking about his latest book “Mastering the art of public speaking – 8 secrets to transform fear and supercharge your career” www.MichaelGelb.com

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I Appreciate You

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This year Thanksgiving was different in many ways and it is reminding us that coming up holidays will be very different than years before,  and yet the spirit of loving each other and having the opportunity to share our love and caring with each other has been similar. 

Most people had struggled with the get-togethers in how many people to invite, how many would, how many people would be scared and not join the family gathering.  Who would travel in or out? Were the airlines safe to travel? Would they have to be quarantine for 2 weeks? Who would want to wear a mask and who would not? Was it warm enough to hold the gathering outside or it was cold and had to be inside?  Whether they would continue to talk about politics and respect each other or get upset with each other and fight.  

We had to consider being together in many different ways including online. This brought a sense of relief for some people who needed to be with people but could not. Yet, it also brought sadness to many people who did not have a family to be with or could not join their family while other members of their family were hanging out together.  Some did not have the means to create a holiday feast or travel due to losing their jobs. Some felt depressed and isolated. Some were ill in the hospital with the Covid 19 and could not be with their family members, and some have lost their family members and are grieving. Some are in line for food from food banks and could not afford to have others come in.  Many might not have the means to buy gift for their family this year.

However, what remains the same is all the beautiful wishes that pours in from people who have been around us and all the people who we have not heard from for a while.  This was apparent from personal messages or in social media. Thanksgiving was a great reminder for all of us to appreciate who we are, what we have, and all the people who we have around us.  Gratitude allows us to connect with ourselves as well as others.  This connection creates a sense of belonging and a sense of well-being.

I thank all of you for being in my life in many ways. I am grateful for being where I am in my life and for all the people who made that possible. I am grateful for having my husband for being so loving, for family and friends who share their love and resources all the time, for my amazing clients who allow me into their lives and share themselves with me allowing me to learn.

So let’s keep the spirit of gratitude high and hold the whole month of December to appreciate who we are, our body, our mind, our friends, our family members, our community, every one who is on earth. And move into the spirit of giving and receiving love, appreciation, and acceptance of each other,

May you enjoy every minute of your life with all of its greatness and at times its disappointments.

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Healing & daily Practices – Dr.Foojan Zeine interviews Dr. Andrea Pennington & Dr. Eric Maisel

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Inner Voice – Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan on KMET 1490 AM / ABC News Radio (Healing & Daily Practices).  In this episode, Dr. Foojan shares the tip of the week about ways you can resolve conflicts through your communication.

Then she shares with you the latest research at MIT regarding Neuroscientists finding that the longings for social interaction felt during isolation are neurologically very similar to the food cravings people experience when hungry. 

Dr. Foojan interviews Dr. Andrea Pennington, an integrative physician, acupuncturist, a multi-passionate EmpowerMentor. An author of many books on empowering health and healing, in this episode they will be talking about her latest book “Holistic Healing” which a compilation of 12 different approaches to healing. www.HolisticHealingBook.com, www.andreapennington.com

 

Then she interviews Dr. Eric Maisel, America’s foremost creativity coach and the author of, The Power of Daily Practice: How Creative and Performing Artists (and Everyone Else) Can Finally Meet Their Goals, which is a thorough and holistic approach to meet the goals and challenges of creating an authentic and effective daily practice. www.ericmaisel.com

 

 

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Resolve your side of the conflict 

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This week I have been focusing on how people can resolve conflict and come to an understanding.  
The first point that I have been observing is people’s intentions and how they envision resolution to look like and to feel like.  Most people do not have a similar view of what it should turn out to be.  Each person might prefer to see the end result of the conflict resolution to benefit them in a particular way and not the other.  Most people love to win or feel like a winner.  So it is important for us to come to some alignment of what we want to move toward, and to see the “win” at the end be a “win for both and all”.
The interesting matter is that in a conflict, we tend to insist to talk, to share our point of view, want to be understood, be validated, and be given what we want.  We may forget that the person in front of us has similar wants and needs.  It is wise to begin listening to the other person and take their needs into account.
I have noticed that people say they don’t want conflict but are not aware that their way of communicating may create fear, anger, disappointment, or disgust which will not entice the other person to want to cooperate.  Sarcasm, jabbing, character assassination, insult, humiliating the other person will create more conflict, and will not resolve it.  Respect, acceptance, empathy, understanding, and the spirit of cooperation move us toward the resolution of our conflict. 
Let’s try these steps:

  • Observe your thoughts, feelings, and actions
  • Notice your intention and agenda for the conversation
  • Envision the future as if it is resolved and observe how you behave to create that result
  • Invite the other person to talk
  • Listen with an open mind and heart, attempt to understand their world 
  • Repeat what they said and your perception of what they said
  • Inquire about what is their non-negotiable and what is their ultimate wish
  • Request from them to listen to you with their open mind and heart
  • State your want, desire, or need clearly. Share your non-negotiable and your ultimate wish
  • Notice all the similarities
  • Negotiate on the slight differences
  • Give a gift of your heart and willingness to create a win-win result
  • Reconnect with love

Please check my book “Life Reset – The Awareness Integration Path to Creating the Life you Want” to get the step-by-step guide on how to create great relationships. 

Remember that you are one side of the conflict and that is the only side you have control over.

Dr. Foojan Zeine

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Conflict Resolution through Love & Collaboration – Dr. Foojan Zeine interviews Chad Ford

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Inner Voice – Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan on KMET 1490 AM / ABC News Radio (Conflict Resolution through Love & Collaboration).  Dr. Foojan Zeine shares ways to recognize when we are surfing in denial and the cost of staying in denial.

 

Dr. Foojan shares the latest research from Princeton University regarding adversarial alignment and adversarial collaboration when differences arise.

 

And she interviews Chad Ford, a professor of Intercultural Peacebuilding at BYU-Hawaii. The host of The Dangerous Love Podcast, and the author of Dangerous Love: Transforming Fear and Conflict at Home, at Work, and in the World. They talk about letting go of fear and bringing curiosity, acceptance, and love into the conversation to resolve conflicts.

 

 

 

 

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Get Real

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This week I have been observing how much staying in denial can be harmful to the person who insists to stay in denial and everyone around them. 

I have had the opportunity to see this in people who have an addiction to a substance or a behavior.  There is a minimization of their attachment to the substance or the action. There is a minimization of the effect of their addiction on people around them. Usually, they bargain about ways they can control their behavior and stay in denial that they can’t, then justify their behavior with some manipulative tactics. 


I had the opportunity to observe the denial of a woman who despite being very unhappy in her marriage, holds on to the fantasy of the beginning time of their relationship and hoping that their honeymoon stage will come back while she cries every day for how her husband is treating her.  

And watching the news media to see a major denial of the election process. 
What is the reason for staying in denial while the reality is staring us in the face?  When reality is too hard to handle we keep staying in denial. When we have to let go of something that was important to us and the present nor the future appear to be better than what we had, we choose the delusion of denial.  When we bargain in our own mind and with others just to keep what we hoped instead of what is, we end up in denial.  


Unfortunately, no matter how long we stay in denial, no matter how much we hope that reality was something else, no matter how much we bargain for something that does not exist, the reality stays as-is.  We only delay the process but don’t change the reality.  It is a much quicker path to accept the reality as is, go through the grief that is awaiting us, and create a goal and an action plan that moves us toward a reality that we envision. The coping mechanism of denial is set up for us not to face the pain, however, subconsciously we are suffering since we have to deal with the reality on a daily basis.  So the resistance creates more harm and wasted energy. 

Facing reality might be painful, however, the faster we face what is real in our lives, the faster we go through the grief, the pain, and become more resilient.  However, staying in denial only prolongs the pain. We just learn how to justify the pain in the hope of the fantasy that we hoped to be there.  For an addict, the destruction just continues in the hope of 1 minute of feeling bliss, which does not occur after a while at all, while the only thing that remains are the consequences.  For the unhealthy marriage, the unhappiness continues with pain for the couple and their children with no sign of the honeymoon stage ever coming back.  For the election process, losing respect for the institution, the society, and the sense of community with the feeling of sorrow, sadness, and fear. 


It is much wiser to face the reality. If you don’t know how then get help and create the courage and the skills to face all that the reality is requiring you to deal with.  You can learn the distinctions and skills that would support you to deal with reality with ease and grace in my book “Life Reset – The Awareness Integration Path to Creating the Life You Want”. 

Love

Foojan

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