Have you ever noticed when your internal opinions and dialogues are irrelevant, pointless, and are just wasting your valuable time and energy?
Imagine sitting in your home or apartment. Hearing noise from other apartments or homes. Your mind starts wandering, checking the noise out. First, you may check to see if all is safe, then you may assess to see if you can do anything about the matter. So far so good- definitely relevant and necessary. Then you may begin assuming and fabricating “what-if” scenarios about the neighbor and what might be happening and then assert an opinion of what you like or dislike, or that they should or should not be doing such and such. This is when thoughts and opinions become irrelevant and unnecessary.
Although as human beings you are wired to constantly evaluate and have thoughts and opinions about all stimulus that enters your world, it is important to be efficient about the time and energy you spend on thoughts, emotions, and behaviors.
Someone who is upset about their co-worker’s ways of relating to her children, although the co-workers life has no bearing on this person’s life, someone who spends most hours of the day angry at their siblings for acting a particular way while they have no authority to make decisions for them, and someone who everyday punishes her parents in her own mind about who they were and how they treated her when she was a child while knowing that she has no way of changing the events of the past, are all the ways that one might spend or better stated – waist good energy and time over irrelevant matter which would make it pointless. Unless someone enjoys this way of thinking as dramatic internal entertainment, it may have no other useful application.
- In what ways do you waste your time and energy on irrelevant matters?
- What do you consider irrelevant?
- In what areas do you insist that you have to have an opinion while no one is really listening or applying your opinion?
- How much time do you spend time on matters that uproar you emotionally?
- How many of these matters you actually do something that makes a difference for you or others?
- What would you pay attention to instead if you chose to let go of the irrelevant thoughts?
- Observe your thoughts
- Assess if this matter is impacting you directly or indirectly
- Assess if you have the ability to do something about it
- Assess if you have jurisdiction, authority, control, or the ability to influence the matter
- Assess if your opinion and actions would benefit you or others
- Act if you choose to
- If the answer to all or most of the above assessment is No, then drop it and move on to a thought and action that is useful and beneficial for you and others.
That is what we call efficiency in thought, emotion, and action.
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