Wonder, Curiosity & Forgiveness 

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I feel blessed this week to observe children’s emotions and experiences and how that relates to us as adults. 

What I have been privy to is the purity of the emotions of young children as they are felt and expressed, the need for love and caring, and the willingness to let go and forgive the world outside when it is not to their liking when they experience love and care from their surrounding. The flow of information as it comes in from the outside world, how they incorporate and categorize into their system, and how each one of them is a little teacher who teaches their younger sibling immediately, and even correct you as you are making a mistake or state things that are not a match. 

For example, The cutest 5 years old girl was told to cut her nails so that they won’t scratch her or others and keep her nails clean.  She saw my long nails, and said: “you need to cut your nails so that you don’t scratch yourself or me”. When I answered “thank you for letting me know, I like my nails long, I think they look prettier long. When you are older, you may also choose to keep them long.”  She looked at me trying to figure out why pretty nails could not be for little girls and only for big girls.  A week later, as she saw me opening things up with my nails. She said “oh, you must be keeping your nails long so that you can open up things with it.” Then we were picking up label stamps and my long nails were useful to pull up the stamps. She says, “let me use your nails to do this.  They are useful now”.

This aspect of learning, using what is learned, sharing what is learned, the openness to see and hear information that is the opposite of what is learned and instructed, and find new reasons for its applicability are a spectacular process of human beings. 

When do we lose this amazing capability, close down and say that the information I have acquired so far is enough and now I will become righteous about it?  Or I will no longer accept any new, different, or opposite views or all views that are not similar to mine are obviously are wrong, and mine is the only right one. 

If the above sentences seem exaggerated to you, I invite you to see in which areas of your life you have become righteous and no longer open yourself to new, different, or opposing information.  Your intimate relationship? Career? Parenting? Views on politics? Views on society? 

As you notice the areas of your life that you have closed yourself to new ideas and views, check to see what happened, what event in your life made you close down, see if you would be open to considering expanding your experience, your outlook, and your life paradigm.  There is a vast amount of knowledge and wisdom above and beyond you waiting for you to experience it.  

Some people experience fear of expansion, fear of the unknown, and want to stick to the limited known knowledge to feel safe and secure.  As if keeping a limiting structure would give them a guarantee of repeated safe results. Soon to be stripped of that delusion from the process of life itself. 

Limiting yourself and becoming righteous does not guarantee safety and security. It only aggravates you and the people around you. You are not intended to be limited. Look at what human beings have accomplished. You deserve to experience it all.  

So let’s bring the part of us that we each possessed in our childhood back to the present every day living and enjoy life – Bring the essence of wonder, curiosity, openness to all that life brings, and forgiveness when faced with adversities. 

For further exploration in these matters go to my book “Life Reset – The Awareness Integration Path to Create the Life you Want”.



About Dr.FoojanZeine

Dr. Foojan Zeine is an International Speaker, Psychotherapist, Life Coach, and the Author of Life Reset – The Awareness Path to Create the Life You Want. She has a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology and is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She practices in Beverly Hills & San Clemente, California offices, and online. Her expertise is in Intimate Relations and Addictive Behaviors. She has extensive experience treating Depression, Anxiety, Traumas, and Domestic Violence. Foojan is the originator and the author for “Awareness Integration” psychotherapeutic model, which is a multi-modality approach and intervention toward minimizing Depression, Anxiety while improving Self Esteem and Self Confidence. This Method has been published with multiple research. Foojan hosts the “Inner Voice” show in the KMET1490AM/ ABC Radio. She is a guest speaker in many universities including Harvard, MIT, UCLA, USC. She has been a guest in the Dr. Phil show in CBS, Fox, Voice of America Television Programs; KPFK 90.7, KIRN 670AM. www.Foojan.com
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