Emotional Health is a must for Relationships

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Well, This was an interesting week in the US.  I hope that you are all safe and healthy.  I hope that you had a good week and getting ready for a great weekend.

Well, This was an interesting week in the US.  I hope that you are all safe and healthy.  I hope that you had a good week and getting ready for a great weekend.

I have observed denial, perceiving the truth differently, manipulating, attacking, justifying, and so forth all over relationships this week.  

We all saw it all over media this past week with leaders of this country.

I have seen it with couples who have different agendas and each might be in denial of some part of the reality or perceive reality in their preferred way, feel entitled to their reality, manipulate to get what they want, threaten to give a consequence if they don’t get their way,  then attack to get their way and ultimately justify their actions and their position.  

I have seen the same dynamics between family members, a mother with a daughter, 2 brothers, father and son, 2 sisters, etc. I have also been a witness to similar dynamics between business partners.  

This dynamic usually happens when we lose trust regarding the other person’s intention, the spirit of team building, friendship, the benefit of all attitude, and the sense of loss over the outcome of the negotiation toward our side.  

This dynamic usually ends relationships, partnerships,  and marriages.  Since the path is only to win regardless of the consequences.  I’ve seen this dynamic many times in divorces and dissolving business partnerships which leave nasty residual feelings for everyone in the process. 

Does it need to get there? Nope.  Especially if there is an intention to keep the relationship, such as marriages or family relationships. 

What does it take for us not to allow destruction and only allow constructive negotiation to occur?  For us to keep the bigger picture in sight that would benefit all in the long hall and not just self-interest short-term gain. It does take mature and emotionally and cognitively healthy people to be able to negotiate fairly and amicably.  

What does it take to be emotionally and cognitively healthy? To be able to be in control of your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Able to handle life challenges, doing a reality check, and bouncing back from failures or setbacks.  Having high self-esteem and have values that are aligned with compassion toward others with no intention to harm others. The ability to clearly think, see reality as it is presented and agreed upon by others around, learn from mistakes, take responsibility and accountability for their own action. Feel remorse for their negative impact on others and have the skill to clear, clean, and reconnect to others. 

Observe yourself:

  • In what areas of life and in which relationships do you see yourself being emotionally healthy? 
  • In which scenarios or relationships you lose your emotional stability?
  • In what circumstances do you find yourself in denial and refuse to see what others tell you?
  • Under what conditions you lose cooperativeness and will do anything to win even though it is to your determine?
  • How do you restore yourself and the damaged relationships?

To be emotionally and cognitively healthy it is important to be aware and then regulate our perception, emotion, and action toward an intended result that is beneficial to all who are part of the relationship, family, community, and the world. 

For gaining skills in how to become emotionally and cognitively healthy see my book “Life Reset – The Awareness Integration Path to Creating the Life You Want” .



About Dr.FoojanZeine

Dr. Foojan Zeine is an International Speaker, Psychotherapist, Life Coach, and the Author of Life Reset – The Awareness Path to Create the Life You Want. She has a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology and is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She practices in Beverly Hills & San Clemente, California offices, and online. Her expertise is in Intimate Relations and Addictive Behaviors. She has extensive experience treating Depression, Anxiety, Traumas, and Domestic Violence. Foojan is the originator and the author for “Awareness Integration” psychotherapeutic model, which is a multi-modality approach and intervention toward minimizing Depression, Anxiety while improving Self Esteem and Self Confidence. This Method has been published with multiple research. Foojan hosts the “Inner Voice” show in the KMET1490AM/ ABC Radio. She is a guest speaker in many universities including Harvard, MIT, UCLA, USC. She has been a guest in the Dr. Phil show in CBS, Fox, Voice of America Television Programs; KPFK 90.7, KIRN 670AM. www.Foojan.com
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