What happens when you are out of integrity?

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It certainly has been an interesting week.

There is a certain experience of shock when the feeling of disappointment arises when I see a child observe one or both of their parents act out, act immaturely, violently, or viciously. I have spoken with kids who cry themselves to sleep when their parents behave in a way that they have told the kid not to.  I recall talking to a little boy whom his father told him never to lie and watched his father get drunk and lie to his mom about it, he said “I am confused, my dad is suppose to take care of me and teach me how to act, but he tells me one thing and then he does the same thing he told me not to do, I feel that I can’t trust him or listen anymore, but that means I am alone and have to figure out life on my own, that is scary”.  

I have spoken with young adults who have trusted a mentor, a teacher or a religious figure to guide them toward adulthood and all the right skills to learn so that they can have a good life ahead. Then one day they witness their mentor act out of integrity and unethical.  Feelings of disappointment, disgust, confusion, and shame for believing someone who did not deserve their respect surfaces.  

This past week I have been hearing many people having similar feelings about watching people who they have put their trust into making major decisions for their life,  life of their families, children, and businesses act immaturely and out of integrity with a sense of righteousness and no remorse.  I hear and sense feelings of disgust, powerlessness, hopelessness, and contempt creeping in.  

It is important to uphold the values that you intend to live by and hold others accountable to the values that either they claim or that their positions require any one in that position to have.  Observe your thoughts, dualities, needs, feelings and action.  
What values are you upholding?

Are you upholding your values and are on integrity in different areas of your life?What type of feedback structures have you created so that you can notice when you go off integrity?Do you come back to your stated values? or justify your behavior when it is not appropriate?

Take the Awareness Integration path through my “Life Reset” book to become more aware of yourself and how you impact your own life and the life of others around you, or let me know how I can be of support to you.
Every word, and every action has an impact.Act in a way that you and others can be proud of you.




About Dr.FoojanZeine

Dr. Foojan Zeine is an International Speaker, Psychotherapist, Life Coach, and the Author of Life Reset – The Awareness Path to Create the Life You Want. She has a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology and is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She practices in Beverly Hills & San Clemente, California offices, and online. Her expertise is in Intimate Relations and Addictive Behaviors. She has extensive experience treating Depression, Anxiety, Traumas, and Domestic Violence. Foojan is the originator and the author for “Awareness Integration” psychotherapeutic model, which is a multi-modality approach and intervention toward minimizing Depression, Anxiety while improving Self Esteem and Self Confidence. This Method has been published with multiple research. Foojan hosts the “Inner Voice” show in the KMET1490AM/ ABC Radio. She is a guest speaker in many universities including Harvard, MIT, UCLA, USC. She has been a guest in the Dr. Phil show in CBS, Fox, Voice of America Television Programs; KPFK 90.7, KIRN 670AM. www.Foojan.com
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