This week I wanted to share with you the emotional process of loss.
Many people are experiencing loss at this time in their life. Many are grieving for the loss of a loved one to COVID-19. Others are grieving their job, career, business, or their identity with it. Some are grieving the freedom that they experienced before, and some feel the loss of socialization that appeared effortless. Whoever has lost a mate to separation, divorce, or death has experienced an extremely painful experience.
There is an experience of sadness that takes over to force one to move inward and pay attention to oneself. For some, the sadness turns into agitation and anger. At times there is feeling anxiety about an unknown, unfamiliar, and uncertain future without what was there before. There is a natural process of bargaining for bringing back what was lost or the person who no longer is in our life.
When the loss is happening, the anger naturally shows up to protect and fight to get back what was suppose of stay. When the anger does not work and we can’t have what or whom we lost, a sense of utter powerless and hopelessness creeps in. I think this is the hardest part of the grief process. When this phase becomes intolerable, one goes back to bargaining again, but nothing brings back what is gone.
It takes another way of thinking and being with the reality of life as is. Acceptance of the loss and what that loss has brought for our life is the path to take. Life changes, let’s look at how the change will make growth possible.
Hardship ignites resilience. Life goes on beyond loss. There are other gains that will show up. But first, attend to the grief. Cry as much as you need. Honor your sadness. Allow time to go within and nurture your self. Meditate daily. Journal daily. Write a letter to the person you lost or the identity you lost and share all you need to share. Assign a time per day that you only attend to your grief. Begin envisioning a future beyond the time of loss that brings out the best of you.
All is well & will be well