This week I have been noticing how we face uncertainty vs certainty.
I noticed how in different realms and areas of our life we are constantly facing uncertainty. I also noticed that what we call “certainty” in the present time is also only temporary until the changes happen which creates uncertainty.
We come to face the uncertainty of our health with the Covid-19, and even if we don’t have it today, it does not guarantee that we won’t have it tomorrow. So the certainty of today does not extend itself to the future. All we could ever say about what we have, think or feel is “until further notice”. I have been working with people who are starting their intimate relationships and are uncertain about their choices and how the future would be for them. Even with the best of relationships, no one can guarantee that the status quo will remain no matter how awesome it is. So, all that we could say is that it is “until further notice”. We can see this in every area of life. Life is great or life sucks “until further notice”.
So how do we live with the anxiety that gets created for us with the uncertainty of the future? Most people hold a positive vision for the future to inspire them to move forward, however their anxieties might take over looking at all the obstacles that show up for them not to achieve their goals . Everyone at times also experiences envisioning all possible negative outcomes, or even worst case scenarios. Human beings are future oriented beings and have a tendency to project the past and the present results to the future to protect themselves or inspire and motivate themselves. However, we know inevitably that all we have as certain is what we have in the present moment and what we created in the past. Maybe that is why we insist on projecting the results of certain times to the uncertain times of the future, in order to make an attempt of creating certainty in the future.
A healthy way of dealing with uncertainty is to enjoy the certainty that is in the present moment and know that you have the skills to handle uncertainties, and you have the ability to learn the skills that are needed for all that shows up. I assert this notion with certainty (haha) since the reality is that since you were born, nothing was certain, and guess what, you have made it so far.
If you are not liking what is happening in the present moment in your life, yet it is certainly a reality that you have to deal with, then you would be doing something to change to a desired outcome or hoping for a change to happen. Which again puts you on the path of uncertainty.
How to cope with uncertainty?
- Embrace what is certain in the present moment.
2. Detach from the need to hold on to certainty.
3. Trust your ability to handle the uncertainty that life will bring.