This week I have been observing the concept of getting closure with your past, with people who had hurt you and with yourself as you had hurt others.
What does closure mean?
Getting complete, learning from the experience, grieving over the loss, taking responsibility for the part that you had in the event, acknowledging the part of the event that you had no control over, understanding and having compassion toward the part of you that had the need to hurt someone including yourself, understanding and having compassion toward the person who had hurt you, forgiving yourself, forgiving the other, and if the opportunity exists to create the space of full expression from you and the other person.
The commitment and the allowance to be complete and clear with everyone around you and with all the phases of life creates a sense of presence and freedom. Holding on to sorrow of the past, anger or revenge toward someone, blame, anger toward the self, puts a burden on you.
If you are holding on to your anger, blame, unfinished business, un-obtained love, revenge for feeling treated unfairly, etc. observe all the negative consequences that you are enduring for holding on to those experiences. Observe the amount of energy that you are spending on holding on, being preoccupied and consumed with no longer relevant stories. If they are relevant to your day to day matters, then please handle it and get clear with all that you need to. If what you need to get closure with has happened in the past, you can’t change the past, so let’s clear the present moment so that you have the freedom to utilize your energy on creating a life that you love and deserve.
Choose freedom. Choose love and compassion. Choose clarity