When the choice between being mean and being Kind is available, choose kindness

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This week I have been thinking about kindness, acceptance, and openness.  These virtues appear to play a significant role in bringing us together as human beings.  They bring us joy, unity, cooperation, and moving us forward.  

Yet, it is difficult for most people to live these virtues consistently.  We have seen anger, hatred, prejudice, negative judgment destroying marriages, families, societies, and countries. Although every human being has the capability to be kind and accepting, the minute they feel threatened by a different idea, person’s color, culture, belief, or action, they resort back to anger and destruction.  

How come it is easier to be mean than to be kind?

Maybe because we are wired to protect ourselves with our anger when we are threatened as our primary instinct. We become self-preserving, self-serving, and self-centered. Kindness appears to need more complex thinking, it requires us to go beyond ourselves and think of others.  it requires a more mature developmental stage to go beyond our own bubble and extend ourselves to another’s well being.  It takes a secure ego state to be able to extend a hand toward another being.  

The reward of kindness is plenty.  being kind or being around acts of kindness produces oxytocin, ‘love hormone’ which lowers blood pressure and improves our overall heart-health. Oxytocin also increases our self-esteem, high energy, optimism, feeling calmer, less anxious, and depressed since the brain’s reward center’s light up. Acts of kindness release more serotonin, the “feel-good” chemical that heals our wounds, calms us down and makes us happy.

With all that said, you would assume that there would be more acts of kindness that destructive acts in a life span of any human being.  Not necessarily.  

Observe yourself

What makes you act destructively, or angrily?

When do you choose to be kind?

When you have the option of both, being mean vs.kind, which do you choose?

How come?

I think that when we experience kindness and experience the rewards, then we choose kindness, it is a more elevated consciousness to go beyond the self and be for others as well.

May you experience Kindness and share yourself with others.




About Dr.FoojanZeine

Dr. Foojan Zeine is an International Speaker, Psychotherapist, Life Coach, and the Author of Life Reset – The Awareness Path to Create the life You Want. She has a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology, and is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She practices in Beverly Hills, Irvine & Woodland Hills, California offices and online via audio/chat or video. Her expertise is in Intimate Relations and Addictive Behaviors. She has extensive experience treating Depression, Anxiety, Traumas, and Domestic Violence. Foojan is the originator and the author for “Awareness Integration” psychotherapeutic model, which is a multi-modality approach and intervention toward minimizing Depression, Anxiety while improving Self Esteem and Self Confidence. This Method has been published with multiple research. Foojan hosts the “Inner Voice” show in the KMET1490AM/ ABC Radio. She is a guest speaker in many universities including Harvard, MIT, UCLA, USC. She has been a guest in the Dr. Phil show in CBS, Fox, Voice of America Television Programs; KPFK 90.7, KIRN 670AM. www.Foojan.com
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