Upgrade yourself

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This week I have been pondering on the notion of how is it that we upgrade many aspects of our lives such as our work, career, attire, clothing, technology, and cars, but many people are stuck in a very outdated way of relating to other human beings.  
Many people get stuck in their early childhood emotional stages and never develop beyond how they use to treat each other beyond kindergarten, or elementary school, or when they were a teenager.  Some people have not upgraded their behaviors from hundred years ago although they insist to have the latest phone or the gadget that comes in the market.

How come? 

It could be that people see and experience the new technology, enjoy the experience and see others using it, see the benefits of it, and therefore want to upgrade and be a part of the society that chooses to utilize these new products or styles of living.
Maybe when it comes to the emotional and behavioral practices people will only upgrade as the people whom they surround themselves with. So that a community has familiarity in their interactions with each other.  Much of people’s behaviors had to get upgraded when they worked in large corporations and had to change their practices at least the 8-10 hours that they are at work, but never transferred it their socialization or their home environment.  

What can be done?

An adult state behavior that matches the 21st century can be defined as a caring, cooperative, accepting, kind, characters who can regulate their emotions and can behave in a non-threatening, respectful way with others while negotiating their differences in a respectful win-win way. Each person can first learn and update one’s own state of being, thought form, emotional management, and behaviors, and support their own family and community to upgrade their way of being.  It is important to have the intention and the motivation to upgrade our communication skills to match who we are as an adult and to what is needed in a healthy relationship, healthy workplace, healthy community, healthy country, and healthy world.
Observe yourself, is any part of your character, thought process, beliefs, emotional state or behavior stuck in a younger version of you? Or an outdated time that is no longer relevant?If your answer is yes, then become intentional about upgrading those parts of you.

About Dr.FoojanZeine

Dr. Foojan Zeine is an International Speaker, Psychotherapist, Life Coach, and the Author of Life Reset – The Awareness Path to Create the life You Want. She has a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology, and is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She practices in Beverly Hills, Irvine & Woodland Hills, California offices and online via audio/chat or video. Her expertise is in Intimate Relations and Addictive Behaviors. She has extensive experience treating Depression, Anxiety, Traumas, and Domestic Violence. Foojan is the originator and the author for “Awareness Integration” psychotherapeutic model, which is a multi-modality approach and intervention toward minimizing Depression, Anxiety while improving Self Esteem and Self Confidence. This Method has been published with multiple research. Foojan hosts the “Inner Voice” show in the KMET1490AM/ ABC Radio. She is a guest speaker in many universities including Harvard, MIT, UCLA, USC. She has been a guest in the Dr. Phil show in CBS, Fox, Voice of America Television Programs; KPFK 90.7, KIRN 670AM. www.Foojan.com
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