I have been a witness to and experienced how an intimate relationship or marriage can flourish and last many years. It comes down to the intention of being each other’s best friend forever.
The yearning to be close to your mate can entice you to strive to be your best and promote their best at all times. It is difficult to remain a best friend when you only think of what works for you regardless of what works for your mate. Usually, what works for you is different, and at times the opposite of what works for your mate. At times it becomes difficult to let go of your own need to fulfill your mate’s needs or expectations. At times you would have to become someone new to fulfill your mate’s needs. If you looked at those extensions of yourself as the gift of expansion, then you don’t feel deprived or upset. You will see and experience the changes that you experience as the gift of being together and growing.
The art of negotiation and compromise is essential for this togetherness. To know when it is the right time to move forward and when to set boundaries, to share what your values are as well as hearing your mates values, to listen with your heart and be willing to give the gift of yourself to your mate and receive with gratitude when your mate freely gives you the best of themself. You will have access to experiencing Oneness.
The beauty of an intimate relationship is in being all of you and giving the gift of all of you to another being who is willing to give it all and in between feel the oneness.
May you experience the beauty of feeling the oneness within togetherness.