I have been noticing the way we look away from our body and soul and how it creates so much misery for us. When we don’t like something about our character or our situation, we tend to ignore, bargain, deny or look away. The reality persists and we continue to spend our energy on refusing to deal with the reality at hand.
Whether this reality is not liking a part of our body, not controlling our eating habits, not disciplining ourselves to do work or exercise, not managing our emotions, not having the ability to say NO, not having the ability to ask for what we want, not having the courage to take a stand for what we want, not having the courage to leave a circumstance that we are unhappy with, or have the persistence to keep a commitment although it is hard. You may add to this list looking at your life and relationships.
The awareness of your thoughts, emotions, intentions, behaviors and their impact on every layer of your relationship with yourself and others will help break the pattern of looking away. Becoming aware of how you deal with yourself and people in different situations allows you to be in the driver seat of your life.
Being brutally honest and connecting with yourself will actually make you feel real and free. Remember that you can be brutally honest while you are caring and nurturing with your self. Knowing what you desire, your strengths, vulnerabilities, shadow sides, capabilities, and disabilities will allow you to face the reality of who you are as is. You can accept yourself as is first, and then, intend to shift any thoughts, emotions or behaviors that you dislike or does not work. This process will create an integration of your internal process and congruency in expression with others, and therefore an experience of peace of mind.
Allowing yourself to connect with others from an integrated YOU with honesty, vulnerability, and clarity about what you want to create in every relationship will bring you wholeness and joy.
We live in relationships. We define ourselves in relationships. We survive only because of our relationships. We grow due to our relationships. We deserve to have quality relationships. It starts with us having a quality relationship with ourselves first.
May you be authentic and feel joyous with every connection. Create an amazing week for yourself and all around you.