Paying Attention is a Gift

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I wish that you had a wonderful week.  This week I have experienced this matter and I have been the recipient of this state from others so I thought  I would share it with you.  Have to ever had the feeling that you just have no patience for people, or you have no patience for a few particular people?  Have to ever been in a position that you wanted the attention of a friend, a mate, a family member, a boss, a co-worker, etc.  and you experienced that they are short and have no patience for you?
When we experience no patience for others around us, it might be that we are tired, or bored, or bottom line just no longer interested in the conversation.  At times we can physically be tired and no longer have the energy to spend on other people. At times we are mentally preoccupied and can not focus on other’s conversations and it appears that it is an intrusion in our psyche as we are trying to figure out something in our own head.  At times we are emotionally overwhelmed and have no more capacity to handle someone else’s emotions or think that they just don’t understand us.  When emotionally overwhelmed we might be so self-absorbed and already full that we may have no capacity for others’ emotions at that time.  At times we fixate people and assume that people are saying the same things as before and there is no newness in their conversation and therefore we lose interest.  At times we have other priorities and can not make the person in front of us a priority.  What other ways do you experience not having the patience for others?
The experience of being pushed away, not seen, not heard, hurried, neglected, belittled, and many more come up when we are the recipient of someone’s impatience toward us.  Feelings of fear, anxiety, shame, sadness, anger, frustration, disappointment and many more might be experienced by being the one who needs or desires to gain some attention and does not.  What are some of the feelings or experiences that you have experienced when you have been the recipient of other’s impatience?
I suggest for someone who is getting impatient to become honest with themselves and respect their own needs, and then communicate clearly to the person what type of attention you could offer and the actual reason of why you would not want to pay attention at this time.  Simply get interested in who you are as well as them.  Get courteous and either pay attention or tell them kindly, and authentically what is going on with you that does not allow you to pay attention.
If you are the recipient, I suggest actually pay attention to the person whom you are seeking attention from and see what is going on with them. Share with them your experience of them not being, present and you wondered if there was anything going on with them. Request for them to pay attention.  Request from them to share with you what they heard from you and that you love to hear their opinion. Get them engaged.  If that does not work, then respectfully remove yourself, respect their space, and don’t take it personally.
Paying attention to each other is the biggest gift that we can give to one another. Give the gift of yourself to your surrounding and receive the amazing gift of love that is around you.
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About Dr.FoojanZeine

Dr. Foojan Zeine is an International Speaker, Psychotherapist, Life Coach, and the Author of Life Reset – The Awareness Path to Create the life You Want. She has a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology, and is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She practices in Beverly Hills, Irvine & Woodland Hills, California offices and online via audio/chat or video. Her expertise is in Intimate Relations and Addictive Behaviors. She has extensive experience treating Depression, Anxiety, Traumas, and Domestic Violence. Foojan is the originator and the author for “Awareness Integration” psychotherapeutic model, which is a multi-modality approach and intervention toward minimizing Depression, Anxiety while improving Self Esteem and Self Confidence. This Method has been published with multiple research. Foojan hosts the “Inner Voice” show in the KMET1490AM/ ABC Radio. She is a guest speaker in many universities including Harvard, MIT, UCLA, USC. She has been a guest in the Dr. Phil show in CBS, Fox, Voice of America Television Programs; KPFK 90.7, KIRN 670AM. www.Foojan.com
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